Though he knows his own limitations (as prescribed by his shyness), he also knows what a typical man is "supposed to do." So he recognizes, too, when you are doing it for him.This will offend him if you flaunt it, or if it is evident due simply to the social magnitude of the task you've assumed (for example, if you take his hand and lead him through a crowd).Comments like "Oh, I thought you were going drive/get the tickets/plan the trip/[insert other traditionally masculine roles here]" can help in priming his confidence if it seems to be lagging and it bothers you.Dating a shy man takes a lot of initial investment for an uncertain outcome.His masculine instincts will kick in, and in some cases you can end up with a man that acts towards you the same way that a confident man would have acted from the outset.So, if you do choose to initiate, do so only during the early stages of dating, that is, until he builds his confidence and comfort around you.(If nothing else, this will give you good insight into what it is like to be a man.) While all of this sounds like it might be too difficult to deal with - and many women will come to that conclusion - it is worth pointing out that if you can navigate through the difficult aspects of attracting and dating a shy man, he is likely to be completely faithful to you.Due to the lack of female attention he has attracted or received, he is like an emotional spring that you will release.
In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.
If a girl doesn't approach or initiate contact with a shy man, nothing will happen.
This is true, but handling this situation isn't as simple as you might think...
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.