Dating christian unbeliever
Of course, there is nothing wrong with remaining single – if that is what you want. He said that he could have had a wife if he wanted to, but chose not to (1 Cor 9:5,12; 1 Cor 7:1-8). Paul seems to teach that whether someone marries is a matter of circumstance rather than design. -38, he discourages young people from marrying because of the “present distress”. , on the other hand, he encourages the young widows to remarry, again because of individual circumstances.
However, if you are interested in being married, I would like to dispel the myth that God has a specific spouse prepared for each person. Never in his discussion, was there any hint that God may have a fore-ordained plan concerning marriage and we need to get in tune with it.
In fact, there is much evidence from scripture for the opposing view, that we must go out and find ourselves a spouse. No one’s going to burn in hell for believing that God has a perfect spouse for them. Years go by and she’s not so young anymore, and still waiting for God to “bring someone into her life”. If so, Paul was not co-operating by choosing to remain single. Then Paul had no right, writing under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, to claim that he could have taken a wife if he wanted to. Paul decided that given his ministry – traveling all the time and the possibility of being killed at any moment – it was better to remain single.
You don’t have to do too much, God will work it out. A couple must decide that whatever comes their way, they are staying together. The more you meet, the better your chances of finding a good one. In it you’ll find the perfect model of how to find a mate. Abraham sent his servant to look for a mate for Isaac. Abraham had a very precise list of things he was looking for. As the servant went, God led him straight to Rebekah who was everything Abraham wanted and more.
This requires an aggressive and pro-active attitude toward the relationship. God is very much involved in our day to day lives, especially important decisions like who we marry. Just to illustrate, how do you trust God to supply your needs? Every relationship will have problems and everyone will have qualities that drive you insane. A good spouse is someone with whom you can have a happy relationship and with whom you can resolve many of the problems that arise. Relationships are hard, especially for people who have known only singleness all their life. But the happiest marriages I know are between people who’ve decided that whatever comes their way, it will not separate them. The problem with many folks is that they don’t know what they want. If it takes you longer than 3 months to know whether or not you would like to marry a particular person, then you don’t know what you want. God worked it out so beautifully that even her parents had to acknowledge that this was God’s will. Finally, we should not only focus on what traits the other person should have, but we should also consider whether we are the kind of person that person would want. Character development and self improvement should be a way of life.
There are only two examples of God telling people whom to marry – Hosea and Joseph. He has only set one condition for us – that believers marry fellow believers (2 Cor ; 1 Cor ). As far as God is concerned, it does not matter whether you marry someone who is fat or thin, short or tall, brown eyed or blue eyed. God also does not care one bit whether you marry for ministry or not. There are some people who believe that (I used to).
God told Joseph to marry Mary, mainly to facilitate his plan of redemption. Now suppose things did in fact work out for John and Jane, and they got married, lived happily ever after. The bible clearly teaches that although we have a diversity of ministries, it’s all one Spirit (1 Cor 12:4-6).